We judge. We judge all the time. We like to think we don't but we are wrong. I judge people, all the time. I'm human and my personality tends to being harsh towards, and hypercritical of the human race. I tend to like or dismiss people right away. People seldom grow on me. Once in a great while they do but it doesn't happen often. You only have to say 1 wrong thing and I will remember it. I may move on but I never forget. It's not something I particularly like about myself but at 43, I probably won't bother to change.
Facebook is an interesting way to communicate and learn. It isn't for everyone. I love politics and debates and verbal warfare. I can have a hearty debate with people I respect and like and not agree with them. Many people I consider intelligent don't agree with me. (well okay not that many) I have been judged and unfriended many times. I am perfectly fine with that. I actually consider it a badge of honor with a few people. People think they know a lot about a person by what they say and post on Facebook. I have discovered that is only true about half the time.
I do get angry when my friends are judged. Some people I know in "real life" and some I know from the blog world. Some are people I just know from Facebook but have enriched and changed me in lots of ways.I am sure I am thought of as the Crazy Rabbit Lady by some. Others might think of me as a potty mouth liberal bitch who doesn't know anything about life because I never got married or had kids. Maybe it's true, who knows. Some people are even surprised to know I have a job. I guess they think I talk to bunnies all day. (what a great day that would be)
The whole "list x amount of things about yourself people don't know" thing has been popular the last few days. I get a kick out of reading them but by no means do I think I really know someone better because they do or don't like a certain food. Instead of listing all the things about me you don't know, and you people already know plenty, let me tell you about people you just think you know.
There is a man that grew up without love or kindness or tenderness at all. He would never tell you that. He has become so practiced at hiding it behind anger and sarcasm you will dismiss him as an ass and never have a clue about how smart he really is.
There is a woman that grew up in such a violent household that she is afraid to raise her voice. Confrontation scares her. She is in a wonderful relationship but the fear that a hit might come, keeps her in a place of false peace and harmony all the time. I want her to know that her voice matters. That her ideas and opinions are important and that she shouldn't be afraid.
There are people who only live with animals because something so profoundly horrific happened to them, they prefer to stay away from romantic relationships with humans.
There are people who lie about everything and use Facebook as a place to relive their teenage years as adults still seeking out that same silly drama and petty jealously that social media can provide.
There is someone constantly seeking love and approval. I have seen that person judged the most. You might not ever know that that person will drop everything and rush to your side in a crisis. That they are warm and kind and guard that part of themselves fiercely with sarcasm and snarky barbs.
There are people who are just pissed off all the time and have never had a moment of true gratitude in their entire life. I pity those people and avoid them like the plague.I don't know what is the uglier cloak, bitterness or anger.
There are those people that whine continuously about everything. Life is just so hard. Work is just so hard. Everything is terrible and the world is out to get them. God they are a bore.
I could go on and on. I won't.
Oh what the heck. Here are a few things about me you may not know.
1. I make habits quickly.
2. I do not want anyone to speak to me when I wake up until after I have had 2 cups of coffee. I am not chipper when I first wake up.
3. Almost every single day for the last 6 months I have felt like an utter failure at my life.
4. The last time I turned on my TV was Sat, November 9th.
5. I smile at the bunnies all the time.
6. My house is clean. It might be dusty and need painting but you won't find an animal hair anywhere in my kitchen. I vacuum it every single day. If you did find a hair, I would have a panic attack.
7. I wake up with the most phenomenal bed head you have ever seen. I look at my hair every day I get up and chuckle.
8. My car is a pit. Another person could actually move in to my car and I wouldn't notice.
9. I read in the tub. Doesn't matter if I am only in there 5 minutes. I still read a few pages.
10. I am afraid of running out of toilet paper.
Okay, so I feel better. I lost Whoosh the other day. It was shocking and sad and it broke my heart.........again. I fully intend on having my heart broken many times. I would be far more sad and lonesome without all my fur kids around.
It's not Monday but let us have a mantra anyway.
"I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death."
Robert Fulghum
Humor keeps us going. I never post when I am sad. I only post when I feel like I have something to say. I am not actually sure I believe that quote but it sounds great.
